Actually, Racism Is Probably Worse Than We Realize

11 06 2013

In 2008, the argument that race has declined in importance became the crystallized “post-racial” thesis upon the election of President Barack Obama.  By his re-election in 2012, some had offered clarification that race still exists, but it is racism that has disappeared – the “post-racism” thesis.  There it sits, almost as a sense of relief — “whew, now we can stop tip-toeing around people of color, and supporting these race-related causes like Affirmative Action.”

On day 2 of George Zimmerman’s trial for the murder of Trayvon Martin, the supposed reality of post-racism contrasts with that of the hyperrelevance of race and racism.  A young Black man was killed because his race made him a suspect.

Today, Blackness is still a crime, and whites are charged with the task of policing Black people.  The harshness of law enforcement and the criminal justice system is magnified for Blacks, from the use of excessive force to longer sentences to denial of justice all together.  Even those who are not police officers, judges, and lawyers serve to police Blacks; the days of lynching Black women and men has merely evolved into a calmer form of extralegal vigilance.

For example:

My blood boiled as I watched this video.  I posted it in various places on Facebook, expecting similar outrage.  The video was widely shared, but often introduced with concerned, but surprisingly calm notes: “watch this”; “wow”; “this is messed up.”  Those were comments mostly comments from white people.

But, even some Black folks articulated concern, but little surprise.  In fact, a few people seemed to think that it was problematic that I was surprised, and that they are superior in some way for being unmoved.  The unsympathetic response of “why are you surprised?” stung, playing on my fear that I am “not Black enough” or “too white” to fully comprehend the severity of contemporary racism.  I suppose the anonymity of the internet is a dual-edged sword, where hostility is widely expressed and, absent of an in-person connection, there is little expression of empathy and solidarity.

Racism Is Worse Than We Realize

As I further processed my reactions to this video, I realized that my surprise and anger are warranted.  Yes, in the self-confident sense where I do not need to justify my feelings, or shape or suppress them according to others’ opinions.  But, also because the sheer pervasiveness and severity of racism cannot be fully comprehended by one person.  Even as a researcher, I am unable to see every instance, manifestation, and consequence of racism in every corner of the world.

Like this video, racism that hides behind seemingly race-neutral interactions, laws, and practices is harder to see, and near impossible to prove exists.  Today, we are dealing with consciously suppressed and unconscious racial prejudice — both which shape behaviors.  Few racists openly, proudly identify themselves as racists, and most racists do not even know that they are racist.

Racial discrimination, too, is harder to identify, particularly absent of outwardly expressed racial bias.  It is no longer limited to exclusion at the entry point or first contact.  The “whites only” sign has to be implied since it cannot be hung from the front door.  We may be hired, but then harassed on the job or denied opportunities to advance.  We may receive a loan, but are offered one that is economically risky.

On the ground, we cannot see other interactions to “accurately” assess whether we have been discriminated against.  (This speaks to the importance of research to look at the broader patterns!)  Like the racial profiling video above, Black people may suspect unfair or differential treatment driven by racial prejudice, but rarely can we compare the same situation experienced by a white person.  Even in some of the recent audit studies that demonstrate racial discrimination in the labor force, some of the participants were unaware of the discriminatory treatment they faced until they compared notes with others and the researchers.

In reality, racism and the pervasiveness of racial discrimination are likely far worse than we can imagine.  So, I stand by my surprise because it is a reasonable reaction to such harsh reminders of the everyday consequences of racism.  But, also because I much prefer to hope for something better than resign myself to accept the world as it is.





[kinsey] April Is Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM) – Are We Aware Yet?

22 04 2013

This was originally posted at Kinsey Confidential.

There is still a little over a week left in April – Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM).  This is our annual 30-day-long recognition of a problem that affects far too many people, especially girls and women: sexual violence.  The primary goals of the month is to raise awareness about sexual violence and, ultimately, eliminate it all together.

With nearly forty years of anti-sexual violence activism — are we aware yet?  Unfortunately, not so much.

What Is Sexual Violence?

An important starting point for raising awareness about sexual violence is to define it.  A major focus of sexual violence prevention is on sexual assault, which is typically defined as any sexual contact with a person without their consent, through coercion, or by force.

Because of inconsistent definitions in the law, especially from state to state, non-consensual sex is sometimes referred to as rape.  Some distinguish rape from sexual assault to include any non-consensual sexual acts that involve penetration.

While these distinctions are important, at least for legal purposes, they are not inclusive of other unwanted sexual acts.  So, advocates have pushed for recognition of the full range of such acts under the broad umbrella of sexual violence.  This broader category includes:

Attention to sexual violence, as a broad class of non-consensual sexual acts, also allows for attention to victims who are often overlooked, including boys and men.

The Basis Of Sexual Violence

Next, it is important to understand what sexual violence is based upon.  Sexual violence is an expression of power.  It is a tool that is used to physical, mentally, and/or emotionally control another person.  It is not an expression of sexual desire.

In understanding sexual violence this way, the myths that someone simply goes over board, gets carried away, or that their hormones got out of control are dispelled.

Beyond Individuals

By “power,” I am referring primarily to the social hierarchies, which place members of our society either at a high or low status.  Most attention has been paid to sexual violence as an expression of sexism.  In particular, women are afforded lower status and less power in society than men.  There are various things that some men do to further limit women’s status or disempower them, or even take advantage of them, including sexual violence.

So, it is important to look beyond what, on the surface, appears to be a private, individual act of sexual violence.  For example, the seemingly personal acts of acquaintance rape  and spousal rape are fundamentally political because they serve as an express of sexism.  But, sexual violence may also be based on other systems of oppression, including racism, homophobia, transphobia, classism, ageism, ableism, and fatphobia.

Sexual Violence And Oppression

But, sexual violence is not merely an expression of one or more of these systems of inequality.  It is also influenced and justified by them.  For example, sexism includes the rigid control of women’s bodies and sexualities, the sexual objectification of girls and women, and so forth.  This creates a dynamic where girls and women are vulnerable to sexual violence, and in which some men feel entitled to women’s bodies.

When women are victimized, the act is justified by stereotyping men as naturally oversexed and women as asexual, or by blaming the victim.  Alternatively, others may turn a blind eye, or even deny that it occurred.

Also, sexual violence actually reinforces these systems of oppression.  Again, using the example of sexism, women’s subordinate status to men, and constrained opportunities and well-being are partly the artifact of sexual violence.  Some reports suggest 1 in 4 women are survivors of rape or sexual assault, and, thereafter are at risk for facing various health problems.  Even more women live in fear that they may be victimized (or revictimized).

Sexual Violence As A Social Problem

Reflecting the systematic component of oppression, sexual violence is not a random occurrence.  And, all members of society do not share an equal chance of being victimized.  Women make up 90 percent of survivors of sexual violence.  In addition, there is evidence that repeat perpetrators of sexual violence account for most acts of sexual assault and rape.

Sexual violence, then, reflects a society-wide problem.  Further, some social organizations and institutions play a role, either by 1) ignoring such acts, 2) failing to support survivors and protect victims from further harm, 3) failing to punish perpetrators, 4) condoning these acts, and/or 5) facilitating sexual violence.  For example, colleges and universities have been criticized for (unintentionally) creating space for rampant sexual violence on campuses.  Recently, more and more schools have come under fire for doing too little in response to sexual violence, or even discouraging reports of victimization.

Culturally, how we talk about sexual violence (or not) contributes to the problem.  Too often, in everyday conversations, the media, pop culture, and so forth, jokes are made about rape and sexual assault, victims are blamed for their own victimization, and perpetrators are excused for actions.  In fact, many have argued that we live in a rape culture because sexual violence and the cultural norms that condone it are so pervasive.

Another facet to this is the harassment and bullying that survivors face for reporting their victimization, and their and allies’ public anti-sexual violence activism.  In other words, some victims and allies who speak out face a backlash, which aims to silence them.  A strong effort is made to keep sexual violence invisible, or at least seem like isolated, random, private acts.

Sexual Violence Prevention As A Community Responsibility

Because sexual violence is such a huge, widespread problem, no one person can stop it alone.  That is why many anti-sexual violence advocates are pushing for bystander intervention – a call for others to fight against sexual violence.  This includes:

  1. Intervening when sexual violence occurs if it is safe to do soFor example, this can mean alerting a teacher if your friend confides in you that she is being molested by her uncle (and she agrees to have you tell the teacher).  Or, making sure your friend, who is very drunk, gets home to his own bed after a party.  Or, letting your coworker know that whistling at women on the street is a form of harassment and encourage him to stop.
  2. Supporting victims and survivors of violence.  One of the most important things to do is ensure them that you hear them and believe them.  (Unfortunately, they may be doubted by others, and face the broader victim-blaming norms in society.)  Ask them how you can help them.  And, ask them whether they wish to report their victimization (e.g., to the police).  It is okay to encourage them to pursue either support for themselves or punishment for the perpetrator, but ultimately they can choose not to and you should respect that.
  3. Challenging victim-blaming and other aspects of our rape culture.  For example, speak up when you hear rape jokes or “slut-shaming.”  Or, write to media outlets or politicians who perpetuate these problems.  Or, join an anti-sexual violence campaign or organization.  Participate in your own or the nearest college’s Take Back the Night rally and other anti-sexual violence events.
  4. Educate yourself and others.  For example, help to raise awareness about what sexual violence is, how it is a society-wide problem, and what we can all do to prevent it.  Have frank, yet age-appropriate conversations with your children, students, or other young people about consent.
  5. Break the silence about sexual violence.  This goes for allies and, if they feel safe and comfortable, survivors of sexual violence.  This means bringing up the subject when opportunities arise, or even making those opportunities happen.  My own approach is to blog and cover sexual violence in the courses I teach.  While it may be difficult in some ways, I find that men who are allies to survivors can have great impact in speaking up about sexual violence.

Indeed, we are not there yet in having a good understanding of sexual violence and why it persists.  But, hopefully, we will at least be closer by next year’s Sexual Assault Awareness Month!  And, of course, our collective efforts should not be limited to the month of April.

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Just A Different Kind Of Terrorism For America’s Scapegoats

21 04 2013

When I first heard the news about the bombings, I felt what most of the US felt: “Oh, no!  That is tragic.”  Grief for the families.  Curiosity about who did it and why.  And, concern for what this means for the country moving forward.

Then, as the media began speculating about who the suspects are, I lost interest.  I still feel the same ache in my heart for the victims and their families, and the city of Boston as a whole.  But, I was not glued to my television, computer, or Twitter account any longer.

It was in talking with my parents about the bombings that I realized why.  The speculation quickly dissolved into the guessing game regarding the suspects’ race, ethnicity, nationality, and religion.  We tried to figure out why these characteristics matter.  Ah — America needs a scapegoat.

It Doesn’t Matter

Please don’t let it be a Muslim!”  “They hardly look dark-skinned to me.”  The media and the rest of the country became obsessed.  For members of demonized groups, the suspects’ background matter because of what may come.  If this turned out to be a repeat of the September 11, 2001 terrorist attacks, the US might again overflow with racism, xenophobia, and Islamophobia.  If the suspects were Black, America might wave it’s finger and exclaim, “see, I told you Blacks are violent criminals!”

One aspect of being a stigmatized group is being treated as an indistinguishable mass.  The actions of one Latino man are treated as further proof that all Latina/os do that same act.  But, the suspects’ white racial identity end up saying nothing about whites as a group.  They are seen as individuals who acted independent of group interests or dispositions.  In fact, now that so much attention has highlighted on this double standard, efforts are being made to recast the suspects as off-white or something else all together.  We must preserve the purity of whiteness!

But, sadly, the suspects’ background actually changes nothing.  Muslims are still stereotyped as terrorists.  Black people are still stereotyped as being prone to violence and crime.  Latina/os are still stereotyped as “illegal” immigrants.  And “white people” are still comprised of unique individuals.

It Does Matter

Prejudice is a funny thing.  It is stubborn and rash.  If there were a group of people who deeply hated the color blue, they would insist that the sky is red.  Or, they might even say that they don’t see color.

Even with pictures of the two identified bombing suspects, mainstream America persisted in making this tragedy a case about international affairs, race, immigration, and religious-based terrorism.  The suspects were described in ways that either heightened the importance of race or twisted the reality of their racial and ethnic background.  Innocent bystanders and even victims with brown skin were identified by the media as possible suspects.  Some in congress have made this an issue about immigration.

The slightest infraction, then, serves to justify further demonizing immigrants, racial and ethnic minorities, and religious minorities.  Even feminists and LGBT people have been named as possible scapegoats.  Yet, this case reminds us that infractions can be created even when they do not exist.  These white suspects have given further justification for racism and xenophobia.  Huh?

And, yet again, terrorist acts are being used to terrorize minorities, ironically indiscriminately.  Any person with the slightest shade of brown skin could be subject to harassment and discrimination.  Racist and xenophobic America once again has an excuse to terrorize the minorities.

We Got ‘Em!  A Cause For Celebration

With the apprehension of the second of the two suspects after a prolonged search, Boston and much of the rest of America breathed a sigh of relief.  We got ‘em!  Pictures of people waving American flags and singing the national anthem filled my Twitter feed.  Yes, the capture of two young adult men who terrorized a major US city was certainly a cause for patriotic celebration.

Indeed, for some, this was the first major terror attack since the 9/11 attacks.  Huh?  Either we really do lack a consensus on what counts as “terrorism,” or mainstream America has a bad case of amnesia.  Or, maybe it’s just selective amnesia:

The legal, academic, and dominant cultural definitions of terrorism aside, there have been many violent attacks before and since the 9/11 attacks — acts which serve to create terror.  I am hesitant to believe that the US faces any more or less terrorism than in the past.

Beyond that,  I felt relief when the second suspect was caught, but “Ohhhh, sayyyy cannn youuuu seeeeee” was not flowing out of my mouth for two major reasons.  First, the Boston bombings do not seem all that extraordinary to me.  Look again at the (incomplete) lists of terrorist attacks that came to mind.  Such big acts of violence actually seem like a pretty regular part of life in America.  We certainly have it good (in terms of safety) compared to places where bombings are a regular occurrence.  But, for places in the US that are entrenched with regular crime and violence, I have to wonder if they were phased by the Boston bombings.  (I bet their entire city is not shut down for the frequent “manhunts” for violent criminals.)

Second, I do not feel any more or less free from terrorism following the closure to the Boston case.  The Boston bombings were just a different kind of terrorism for me.  They serve as an act that supplement the regular vulnerability to being terrorized as a brown queer person in a racist, sexist, heterosexist, and classist country.  Whether I am truly an American remains questioned, my status as a citizen is still not fully realized, and I am no more protected from violence and discrimination.  In fact, these events sparked greater possible threat to my safety and rights.

Concluding Thoughts

Sadly, that what is at stake for this case depends upon the race, ethnicity, nationality, and religion of the terrorist behind the bombings in Boston tells us that America still has a race problem.  The sense of dread that members of demonized groups felt that the suspects may be “one of their own” highlights the ease with which stereotypes are considered confirmed.  Minority groups are treated as a monolithic mass, while privileged groups continue to enjoy the luxury of individuality.  Where ever there is uncertainty, or room for doubt or speculation, mainstream America’s prejudices fill in the gaps, standing in as facts.  Such prejudices are so strong that they will not only create truths, but also alter or completely counter evidence that says otherwise.

Let’s look at America before the bombings and, now, today as the case comes to a close.  Nothing has changed.  The country still suffers from racism and xenophobia.  It’s just using a new excuse to terrorize its scapegoats: “you made me do this to you.”





Actually, Racism Could Motivate Sexual Violence

19 04 2013

*trigger warning: sexual abuse against children; sexual violence*

At the top of the list of yesterday’s most disgusting stories, and the strangest stories, is that of a white woman teacher who cried “racism” when accused of sexually assaulting one of her first-grade students.  That is, faced with the charges of touching a 7-year-old Black girls’ genitals (who she kept behind class as other students left), Esther Irene Stokes claims that she harbors racist prejudice and, as such, she despises any sort of contact with Black people.  Innocence by bigotry.

Prosecutors said that after failing a polygraph test, Stokes insisted to Humble police that she had not touched the girl “on any part of her body.”

“She doesn’t like to even touch the black children on their hand, she shies away when they try to hug her — she admitted to being prejudiced,” Blanchard said.

The complaint stated that Stokes “doesn’t like black students because she was prejudiced” and “has little to no interaction” with her accuser.

The strange self-admission of being racist came after a failed polygraph test, and other details that cast doubt on her claim to innocence:

The girl also told police that she asked the teacher to stop touching her and was made to stand out in the hall without any lunch — but Stokes also denied that.

Northwest Preparatory Academy Charter School Principal Paul A. Hardin told investigators that cafeteria records showed that the girl ate breakfast but not lunch on March 1.

Arguably, because the girl’s race is marked (Blackness is hypervisible as a master status, whiteness is invisible and taken-for-granted), Stokes may have been advised by her lawyer to announce her racism.  As a racist, there is absolutely no way in which she would willingly seek physical or sexual contact with a Black child.  As a self-labeled racist, she will face embarrassment.  But, as a child molester, she risks losing her job, time in prison, and registering as a sex offender.  But, it’s no crime to be a racist!

Racism And Sexual Desire

Actually, Stokes’s racist prejudice neither proves nor disproves the possibility that she sexually assaulted a Black child.  Arguably, some (racist) white people sexually and romantically desire racial and ethnic minorities because of their race or ethnicity.  Exotification!  The supposed ability to not see the race and ethnicity of people of color — “color-blindness” — is not much better.

The bottom line is that our sexual desires, selves, and identities develop and change within a particular social context.  We are sexually socialized in a racist society.  Collectively, what we define as beautiful (or not) is largely a product of our social hierarchies.  Black people fall at the bottom of the list of what racist white America defines as beautiful and sexy.

Distinguishing Sexual Violence From Sexual Desire

BUT!  Stokes sexually assaulted a Black 7-year-old child.  Sexual violence is not a phenomenon driven by sexual desire.  Rape and sexual assault are expressions of power.  They act to control another human being, to disempower them — not expressions of one’s desire for them.

Unfortunately, the dominant (critical) understanding of sexual violence — here adding sexual harassment, too — is that it is a manifestation of sexism and patriarchy.  (Heterosexual, cisgender) men rape, sexually assault, and sexually harass (heterosexual, cisgender) women — presumably within the same racial and ethnic, and social class groups.

But, misogyny is not the lone basis for sexual violence.  As an expression of power and control, sexual violence may be based on racism, xenophobia, transphobia, bi- and homophobia, classism, ableism, ageism, and/or fatphobia.  And, by “may,” I mean there are regular occurrences in which members of marginalized groups face sexualized violence as a product of the oppression they face.  In fact, exotification, disgust, and sexual violence are all sexual manifestations of these systems of oppression.

Racism And Sexual Violence

Black feminist scholars like Patricia Hill Collins and Angela Y. Davis have explained the links between racism, sexism, and sexual violence.  Sexual violence serves as just one manifestation of racism and sexism.  Within the matrix of domination, wherein systems of oppression intersect and reinforce one another, one aspect of the intersection between sexism and racism is the sexual violence faced by women of color.  In addition, sociologist Joane Nagel has written about the way race and ethnicity (and racism) and sexuality (and homophobia and sexual violence) work together to define social boundaries, include and exclude, and privilege and oppress.

Sexual violence has been used as a tool of racism throughout history.  White men have raped, assaulted, and harassed Black women both during US slavery and after.  The reproductive systems of American Indian and Black and other women of color have been attacked through forced sterilizations — even today through racist campaigns of the pro-life movement:

Racist Pro-Life Ad

Boys and men of color are victims of racism-based sexual violence, as well.  Under enslavement, Black men, too, were raped and sexually assaulted by whites.  In the not-to-distant past, Black men’s sexualities were controlled and policed through lynchings.  Most of these executions were extralegal punishments based on false accusations of sexually assaulting or harassing white women.  Many entailed castration and mutilation of the Black men’s bodies.  Even today, many Black boys and young men are preyed upon.

Other men of color have been targeted throughout history, as well, including the regulation of Chinese men’s sexualities through the Chinese Exclusion Act coupled with restrictions on interracial marriage.  In addition, racism and xenophobia have been enacted abroad through sexualized violence, especially in wars with other nations (e.g., the sexualized torture at the US prison in Abu Ghraib, Iraq).

Concluding Thoughts

My primary intention in this post is to highlight the ridiculousness of this case of sexual abuse.  According to media reports, it does not sound as though Stokes’s claim to innocence will hold up.  But, no one was present to witness what occurred in the classroom.  Either way, the claim that her racist prejudice would prevent her from treating a Black child as subhuman, unable to decide for herself what she does and does not do with her body, is BS.

I am not arguing that she is necessarily “more guilty” because she is a self-identified racist.  But, her prejudice certainly does not make her any less guilty.  If, for some reason, the evidence of the molestation does not hold up in court, her own admission to harboring prejudice and actually discriminating against her Black students should certainly be grounds to bar her from teaching anywhere.  Pedophile or not, this woman is disgusting and has no business teaching and interacting with children.





Oppression As Terrorism

7 03 2013

What image comes to mind when you hear the term “terrorist“?  I can imagine most Americans think of something like the images that a quick Google search yields:Screen Shot 2013-03-07 at 7.14.25 AM

Right now, these are the kinds of images that predominate US discourse on terrorism, particularly after the terrorists attacks in NYC, DC, and PA on September 11, 2001.  Before that, this was the image of terrorism, at least in my mind:

That of domestic terrorist, Timothy McVeigha white supremacists.  As a nation, we are more fixated on the threat posed by those pictured in the first image — those people in that country.  Our fear of terrorism is used as justification for our xenophobic prejudice toward nations outside of the West.  Arguably, it also undergirds the vehement anti-immigration sentiment, now that “immigrant” has become synonymous with “Hispanic,” “Latino,” “Mexican,” and “illegal.”

For the oppressed members of the US — people of color, women, lesbian, gay, bisexual, and trans* (LGBT) people, religious minorities, and immigrants in particular — terrorism exists daily within our borders.  Defining terrorism simply as a systematic effort to evoke fear and terror in another group, oppressed groups experience both violence and the threat of violence (i.e., terrorism).  In addition to the daily microaggressions and discrimination, these marginalized groups are kept in “their place” through violence and terrorism.

Power And Defining Violence

Continuing to gobble up every idea in sociologist Patricia Hill Collins‘s book, On Intellectual Activism, I got the encouragement I needed to write this post, which I have been contemplating for some time.  She has a chapter, “The Ethos of Violence,” in which she argues that violence is not a given phenomenon.  Rather, it is socially constructed, wherein its meaning is taken from its historical and social context.  But, as I usually do when drawing upon a social constructionist perspective, I echo her argument that the power to define socially is not shared equally.  Rather, dominant social groups hold the power to define violence.  Whites, the middle- and upper-classes, men, heterosexuals, US-born citizens, and so on define violence.

Take the unfortunate example of the shooting in an elementary school in Connecticut.  It would be unimaginable to think anyone would dispute that this was a tragedy — yes, even one that warrants the overdue changes to gun control laws in the US.  But, as some pointed out, that kind of rare tragedy in middle-class white America garners great national attention, while everyday violence in urban, poor, and Black and Latin/o neighborhoods rarely get attention.  As Collins’s points out, these events, though more common, are not treated as noteworthy violence because they do not directly affect the privileged members of America.  In fact, such violence is treated as something to be routinely expected of the inferior classes of people who are stereotyped as natural savages.

Look at the intense political battles against protections from discrimination and violence for women, trans* people, people of color, and lesbian, gay, and bisexual people.  It is difficult to fathom how one could oppose protection from violence.  But, men, cisgender people, heterosexuals, the wealthy, and whites are shielded from violence.  As a part of their privilege, they neither witness nor experience violence enacted toward them because of their status.

Oppression As Terrorism

Collins also notes that, in addition to the violence enacted against oppressed people, they are also terrorized by the threat of such violence.

The routine nature of violence is highly significant in maintaining the social control needed for social inequalities to be seen as natural, normal, and inevitable.  The significance of violence goes much deeper than the small number of visible violent acts that actually occur in relation to the size of the American population as well as the interpretive climate needed to define it.   Rather, the threat of violence constitutes a powerful tool of social control.  For example, women who monitor what they wear, where they walk and with whom, and the time of day they appear in public places adjust their behavior in response to the fear of violence against them.  Women do not have total access to the streets because these spaces remain coded as male spaces, at least most of the time.  A particular woman need not be raped to know that some streets are always dangerous or that all streets are sometimes dangerous.  The fear of physical and sexual assault is sufficient to keep her in her place.

In the above quote, Collins points out that, while at least one-quarter of women experience actual sexual violence, they and the remaining 75 percent of women are plagued by the threat of sexual (and other forms of) violence.  That sexual violence affects women such that they live in fear and adjust their behaviors to minimize their vulnerability and this fear constitutes a form of terrorism.  And, that seemingly isolated acts serve to threaten and disempower an entire marginalized group (women), rape and sexual assault constitutes a type of hate crime.

In a forthcoming article in Journal of Homosexuality, considering the intersections among race and ethnicity, gender, and sexual orientation, Doug Meyer and I found that white men and heterosexual men (the sample was too small to consider all three identities simultaneously) were the only groups wherein fewer than half (~30 percent) reported being afraid to walk alone at night within 1 mile of their own homes.  All women, regardless of race, ethnicity, and sexual orientation, Black and Latino men, and sexual minority men had comparable percentages of those who said they felt such fear (between 70-80 percent).  These patterns held even as we accounted for their prior experiences of robbery or other crimes.

Marginalized groups have real reason to live in fear.  The rates of documented acts of violence are high — just imagine what the rates would look like if most acts of violence were actually reported.  And, think about the costs of the fear that most members of marginalized groups experience.  This fear and the efforts one may take to protect oneself from violence can mean watching every aspect of your behavior, remaining vigilant and in a heightened state of arousal when walking alone, being wary of strangers of privileged groups, staying away from certain parts of town, or forgoing certain activities all together.  For myself, as my partner and I visit Richmond next week to search for a place to live, I have such concerns weighing on my mind; where will we feel safe as an interracial queer couple?

Given their privilege, whites, men, cisgender people, heterosexuals, those born in the US, and the wealthy do not have to experience nor think about violence and the fear of violence.  Beyond that, they do not have to acknowledge or validate the fear experienced by members of oppressed groups.  Further, they have the power to subvert our claims of violence, either as isolated acts that are not motivated by hate (rather than systemic violence and terrorism) or even as something victims brought on themselvesMaybe it was the short skirt she was wearing.  Maybe it was the hoodie he was wearing.  Maybe he flirted with the guy.  Maybe she “lied” about her sex-assigned-at-birth.

Terrorism And The State

What complicates this further is that the state, which proclaims to protect all Americans, is implicated in violence against the oppressed.  Laws on the books are either selectively or weakly enforced.  Proposed laws to protect marginalized groups from violence are somehow characterized as a threat to privileged groups.  And, too often, the state itself enacts violence (e.g., police brutality, injustice in the criminal justice system, forced sterilization, interment, enslavement, raids).  Who protects us when even our protectors enact violence against us or fails to intervene when others attack us?

How quickly we developed national efforts to guard against terrorism (and protect our national borders from “illegals“) — of course, that is when dominant groups come under threat.  There has never been a Homeland Security to protect against racism, sexism, heterosexism, cissexism.  The oppressed are on their own for that.  Ironically, it seems that when the state moves to protect all Americans, the oppressed become suspects.  Anyone with brown skin can be searched and demanded for their “papers.”  Transgender and gender non-conforming people are subjected to additional screening through TSA security checks at airports.  But, c’mon — this is in the name of security for all!

Another Irony Of Oppression

Something akin to the “double bind” or “dual-edged sword” that oppressed people face — the sense that you are “damned if you do and damned if you don’t” — is a sense of irony about systems of oppression.  A good example of the “double bind” for women is the reality that they are penalized for being feminine in a masculinist society, but then punished if they are “too masculine” — something that, in overly simplistic pragmatic terms — would make sense to get ahead in life.  But, what I find more ironic is a twist on certain aspects of oppression.

In particular, I find it ironic that members of oppressed groups face everyday threats of violence, discrimination, and subtler expressions of hatred, yet are characterized as a threat to dominant society.  People of color are subject to violence by, yet are portrayed as violent to, white America.  Gay men, in particular, are frequent targets of homophobic violence and discrimination by, yet are characterized as threatening to, heterosexual men.  Women, if given the power to control anything (even their own bodies!), are seen as a threat to the livelihood of the nation.

There is an exchange in the 2007 movie version of the play, Hairspray, that sticks out in my memory:

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Seaweed: “And this young lady right here is Penny Pingleton.”
Penny: “I’m very pleased and scared to be here.”
Motormouth Maybelle: “Now, honey, we got more reason to be scared on your street.”

Concluding Thoughts

I suppose the take-away points of this post could be: 1) calling for better attention to collective understandings of violence and terrorism, which erase the ways in which oppressed people are attacked and terrorized daily; and 2) calling for real, sustained efforts to account for, outlaw, and remedy the vast amount of violence that routinely occurs against marginalized groups.

This should entail, as Collins points out, better understanding violence at the intersection of systems of oppression, including the heightened risk of violence among those who belong to multiple oppressed groups (especially women and LGBT people of color and poor LGBT people and women).  For, even within our own communities, we face violence.  Yet, for some reason, many members of privileged groups continue to dismiss our efforts protect ourselves from discrimination and violence — basic, fundamental rights — as “special rights.”





A Call For Bystander Intervention To End Racism

27 02 2013

In the recent sociological blog debate on racism versus the supposed dawn of “post-racism” in America, we often touched on problems that make talking about racism difficult, if not entirely impossible.  In addition to institutional constraints, there are interpersonal factors that can derail meaningful conversations about race and racism.  In addition to calling attention to these barriers, it is important to make explicit that too few people take on this difficult task.

Responsibility For (Anti-)Racism

In general, too few people consistently assume responsibility for talking about race and racism, and fighting racism more broadly.  That kind of work is presumed to be taken on by activists and leaders of social movements.  But, in particular, the responsibility generally falls in the laps of those victimized by it — in this case, people of color.  As Jason noted in his contribution to the “post-racism” blog debate, racial and ethnic minorities generally face this burden alone.

But, people of color are neither alone in this racist society nor the creators of this system of oppression.  Whites are implicated by virtue of the benefits they receive (i.e., white privilege) from the historical legacy of racism, as well as today.  Eliminating racism, then, is just as much their responsibility, if not more, as it is for people of color.

As I re-watched a few of ABC’s “What Would You Do” social experiments regarding race and racism, I was reminded just how problematic America’s sense of responsibility for racism and anti-racism are.  While too few whites intervene when they witness racist discrimination in stores against (innocent) people of color, many seem quick to intervene to sanction Black people’s criminal behavior but not that of whites (see part 1 and part 2).  (Three young Black men sleeping in their own car got more calls to 911 than did three young white men vandalizing and breaking into someone else’s car.)

A Personal Anecdote

Racist events are plentiful, from small slights to extreme forms of violence.  So, there are too many missed opportunities to confront racism, or at least learn from these events to do things differently in the future.  One such event stands out in my own life.

At the start of my second semester of graduate school, my cohort and I sat through the beginning of our training and preparation to carry out a telephone survey on social attitudes that summer.  In talking through concerns for the project, whether we as  interviewers “talk black” was posed as a potential bias in our interviews.  It felt as though as though a grenade had gone off right in the middle of class, but we continued on ignoring it.  I thought, “was I the only one who heard that?”

This event only became an issue when my colleagues of color and I were overheard joking about the racist comment the following week.  That was brought to the attention of the professor who, out of concern, asked us whether and how to “handle” this.  Three weeks later, we finally devoted an entire two-hour class to discussing the comment about “talking black” — a phrase the professor wrote explicitly on the board to facilitate our conversation.

Of course, five minutes that felt like an eternity passed before anyone broke the thick silence that suffocated the room — it was me, naturally, in which I called attention to that deafening silence.  As the tense conversation carried on, my cohort was divided, with the students of color and anti-racist white students taking issue with the concern about “talking black,” and the rest remaining silent, or speaking up to say they did not see a problem or even recast the comment in their head so that it was not problematic.

The conversation boiled down to whether the commenter said “talking black” or talking black, where the quotation marks became the symbolic boundary between belief that there is a(n inferior) style of English unique to Black Americans and the knowledge that others believe that (but not believing it oneself).  Only a racist person would forgo the quotation marks, for this would reflect their own beliefs.

With the conversation ending with a half-ass apology from the commenter, that one’s upbringing in the Midwest should suffice as an excuse for one’s racist prejudice, we left the room more divided than ever before.  The rest of our department remained curious bystanders, but nothing more came of these events outside of the efforts of students of color to challenge racism in the department and university.

To add insult to injury, later in the semester, my colleagues of color and I overheard some of our classmates complain about the ongoing divisiveness, placing blame on us for not having gotten “over it” yet.  Their simultaneous lack of understanding and lack of sympathy only further fueled the division.  I am happy to say that a great deal has been forgiven, but one can never forget such events.  But, sadly, because little came of it, we saw yet another racist event occur years later.

A Call For Bystander Intervention

I, as others before me, call for a bystander intervention approach to ending racism.  Too often, individuals not directly involved in a dangerous or difficult scenario — or bystanders — simply stand-by and watch without intervening to provide help.  As such, in the case of the prevention of sexual violence (since this “bystander effect” was coined after no one intervened in the brutal rape and murder of Kitty Genovese), advocates have strongly emphasized the need to turn bystanders into potential interveners – “bystander intervention.“  Applied to racism, this means that individuals are called to action to intervene if they witness racist discrimination, bullying, or violence.

However, I push this anti-racist bystander intervention one step further beyond intervening in difficult situations.  Similar to my calls for bystander intervention to prevent sexual violence (i.e., rape, sexual assault, sexual harassment), I stress that our anti-racist work must include a sense that racism is a community issue and, as such, anti-racism is a community responsibility.

Ways To Intervene

A related aspect is noting that racism exists at multiple levels and, as such, there are an infinite number of ways in which we can fight it:

  1. One can intervene when they witness racist discrimination or harassment.  Of course, this depends upon a number of factors that make this easier said than done.  And, no one should intervene in ways that place them at risk for getting hurt.  If it is a scenario of extreme violence, like a racially-motivated hate crime, a safe means of intervening may be to call the police.  If it is an instance of the unfair firing of a Latina coworker, you could approach your supervisor to note that you feel your coworker deserves a second chance.
  2. Challenge racist prejudice.  This can entail calling people out who appear to harbor prejudice toward people of color, or hold misguided stereotypes.  It also means calling out offensive comments that others’ may make about racial and ethnic minorities.
  3. Challenge yourself.  No matter one’s racial or ethnic background, and one’s racial ideology, no one is immune to the pervasive poison of racism.  It is important to also check your own biases and actions.  Do you seek out friends of the same race?  Do you avoid “that part of town”?  Do you do certain things, at least in part, to avoid appearing racist?
  4. Educate yourself.  Unfortunately, most Americans leave formal education knowing little about racism and the history and experiences of people of color beyond obligatory coverage during Black History Month.  To push beyond this, one can take the time to learn more (even from March to January).  Read books about and by people of color.  Go see films on historical and contemporary accounts of the lives of racial and ethnic minorities.  Visit museums that feature exhibits on race and ethnicity.  Become comfortable talking about race and racism with the people around you, no matter their race and ethnicity.
  5. Support victims of racist prejudice, discrimination, and violence.  As I wrote the first suggestion, I realized that there are so many concerns that one may have in directly challenging racist actions.  But, there are fewer concerns regarding harm in supporting victims of these actions.  Though your supervisor who unfairly fired your Latina coworker very well could threaten you, as well, you are freer to reach out to your coworker.  See if she wants to talk, needs help finding a new job, or even filing a discrimination or EEO complaint.  Even outside of severe instances of racist acts, you can be a supportive ally by really hearing people out when they reveal their experiences to you (rather than blaming them or encouraging them to think of alternative reasons for those acts).
  6. Challenge racist practices of organizations and institutions.  Though the days of overt racist laws and policies are mostly gone, there are still many — albeit neutral in intention and language — that disproportionately harm people of color.  It is important to challenge these, just as it is to challenge racism at the individual-level.  Maybe you can speak up if your workplace implements a dress-code policy that unfairly targets racial and ethnic minorities.  Take action to prevent the efforts to repeal Affirmative Action and other policies that aim to redress racial inequality.  Educate yourself and others about how new policies or policy change can contribute to racial equality, even if they are not targeted solely toward people of color (e.g., Affordable Care Act).

Concluding Thoughts

Obviously, everyone cannot become leaders of social movements like Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. or lead deadly anti-racist efforts like abolitionist John Brown or the slain Mississippi civil rights workers.  Most of us are not lifelong activists.

But, there are many opportunities throughout a given day to make a difference, no matter how small.  For, even small acts add up to a big contribution to challenge prejudice and stereotypes, educate oneself and others, end racist discrimination and violence, and promote racial diversity and equality.  Just as we are all implicated in racism, it will take all of us to end it.





Another Blind-Spot: Middle-Class Privilege

25 02 2013

Yesterday, my partner and I decided to have coffee at a local coffee shop to kill time between dinner and an 8:20pm movie.  On the way, we stopped at an ATM to get cash, taking turns.  As I waited on him, I people-watched, remarking on how ridiculous it was to see people wearing shorts in the midst of winter.  White middle-class people — I just do not seem to “get” them, and continue to feel somewhat alien in spaces where they are the majority.

Nearing the coffee shop, we passed a church where two men who I presume are homeless were lying in front of the door.  The echo of their conversation in the breezeway in front of the door is what caught our attention.  Turning the corner, we saw another man sleeping in front of the church’s side entrance.  My partner asked why the church was closed.  I explained, recalling from the days that I volunteered at Shalom Community Center, that there is no full-time shelter in Bloomington, and the day shelter at Shalom is open on weekdays only.  But, there is nighttime winter shelter program at various churches (including the one we passed).

Middle-Class Guilt

Seeing the first two men struck me.  “Gosh, what a shame…”  But, seeing the third man, lying spread out on the sidewalk (rather than tucked into a corner) hit me harder.  That people literally live on the street for much of their lives is, indeed, a shame.  But, that so many who are better off walk by them, ignoring their existence, is inexcusable.  How can we pride ourselves on being a first world nation, touting patriotism, with such pervasive poverty and homelessness?

As we ordered our warm beverages, my mind stayed on the three men we passed.  What can we do?  What should we do?  Should we purchase warm drinks and pastries to bring to the men?  Should we go to them to invite us to dine with us?  Should we just give them money?  I felt torn between obligation to help, but also fear that presuming they need our help would be patronizing and offensive.  (I recall a comedy film where a man stood outside of a courthouse with coffee in a Styrofoam cup, in which someone threw a quarter, probably assuming he was homeless.)

My drink was ready minutes before my partner’s, so I had some time to find a table as I waited.  I sat at the one closest to the entrance, which is also next to a bulletin board covered in flyers for upcoming shows, and a bookcase stacked with various flyers and advertisements.  A simple half-sheet flyer caught my eye — “DISCRIMINATION.”  It was an alert, I assume created by Shalom Community Center, that several people experiencing homelessness and poverty were harassed by Bloomington police in January.  They were asked for their IDs and many issued tickets for jaywalking.  (There was a peaceful protest one week later that was interrupted with unnecessary violence.)

Middle-Class Privilege

Yes — I get discrimination.  As a Black queer person, personally familiar with racist and homophobic discrimination, I can at least attempt to relate to this aspect of poor and working-class people’s experiences.  But, through conversations with friends from economically disadvantaged backgrounds, as well as my research on discrimination, it has become increasingly obvious that I do not actually “get” poverty, largely because of my own middle-class background.

Regretfully, I wrestle with this.  By understanding racism, heterosexism, and (to a lesser extent) sexism, and having a perspective of the social determinants of inequality, I have assumed that I had a good handle on social class and poverty.  Personally, I am still a modestly-paid graduate student, and many of my relatives come from and still live in poor backgrounds (including some who have experienced homelessness).  For all of my indirect connections to poverty, the remains a distance that prevents me from really “getting it”.  (In fact, my parents have worked hard to support me so that I do not have to have to experience poverty.)

Through these conversations with friends, the invisibility of class, poverty, and classist prejudice and discrimination has become more apparent.  Though we talk openly about race and ethnicity, gender, and sexual identity, albeit rarely and tentatively, there is a conspicuous silence about social class: the ways in which people from poor and working-class backgrounds feel alien in predominantly middle- and upper-class spaces; the assumptions we readily make about others’ socioeconomic standing; the prejudice and discrimination faced by those presumed to be poor.

Though middle-class privilege is complex, it is widespread.  Sam Killermann at itspronouncedmetrosexual.com offered a great list of examples of middle-class privilege:

  1. Politicians pay attention to your class, and fight for your vote in election seasons.
  2. You can advocate for your class to politicians and not have to worry about being seen as looking for a handout.
  3. You can readily find accurate (or non-caricatured) examples of members your class depicted in films, television, and other media.
  4. New products are designed and marketed with your social class in mind.
  5. If you see something advertised that you really want, you will buy it.
  6. You can swear (or commit a crime) without people attributing it to the low morals of your class.
  7. If you find yourself in a legally perilous situation, you can hire an attorney to ensure your case is heard justly.
  8. You can talk with your mouth full and not have people attribute this to the uncivilized nature of your social class.
  9. You can attend a “fancy” dinner without apprehension of doing something wrong or embarrassing the hosts.
  10. You understand the difference between healthy and unhealthy food, and can choose to eat healthy food if you wish.
  11. You can walk around your neighborhood at night without legitimate concern for your safety.
  12. In the case of medical emergency, you won’t have to decide against visiting a doctor or the hospital due to economic reasons.
  13. You have visited a doctor for a “check-up.”
  14. Your eyesight, smile, and general health aren’t inhibited by your income.
  15. If you become sick, you can seek medical care immediately and not just “hope it goes away.”
  16. If you choose to wear hand-me-down or second-hand clothing, this won’t be attributed to your social class, and may actually be considered stylish.
  17. You can update your wardrobe with new clothes to match current styles and trends.
  18. As a kid, you were able to participate in sports and other extracurricular activities (field trips, clubs, etc.) with school friends.
  19. As a kid, your friends’ parents allowed your friends to play and sleep over at your house.
  20. You don’t have to worry that teachers or employers will treat you poorly or have negative expectations of you because of your class.
  21. The schools you went to as a kid had updated textbooks, computers, and a solid faculty.
  22. Growing up, college was an expectation of you (whether you chose to go or not), not a lofty dream.
  23. Your decision to go or not to go to college wasn’t based entirely on financial determinants.
  24. People aren’t surprised if they realize you are intelligent, hard-working, or honest.
  25. An annual raise in pay at your job is measured in dollars, not cents.
  26. You’ve likely never looked into a paycheck advance business (e.g., “Check Into Cash”), and have definitely never used one.
  27. You are never asked to speak for all members of your class.
  28. Whenever you’ve moved out of your home it has been voluntary, and you had another home to move into.
  29. It’s your choice to own a reliable car or to choose other means of transportation.
  30. Regardless of the season, you can count on being able to fall asleep in a room with a comfortable temperature.
  31. When you flip a light switch in your house, you don’t have to wonder if the light will come on (or if your utilities have been terminated).
  32. People don’t assume you’ve made an active choice to be in your social class, but instead assume you’re working to improve it.
  33. The “dream” of a house, a healthy family, and a solid career isn’t a dream at all, but simply a plan.
  34. People do not assume based on the dialect you grew up speaking that you are unintelligent or lazy.
  35. When you choose to use variants of language (e.g., slang terms) people chalk them up to plasticity in the language (rather than assuming your particular dialectical variants deserve ridicule and punishment).

Using My Privilege

On this matter, as I advise concerned whites and heterosexuals, I need to continue the journey to recognizing the ways in which I am privileged as a highly-educated, middle-class person, and call attention to the ways in which society supports such privilege.  And, I must be careful to prevent the sense of guilt that I have from paralyzing me.  Like the guilt that some whites, heterosexuals, men, and cisgender people feel regarding their privileged status, it is a noteworthy, but ultimately useless emotion.

Middle-class guilt stems from being unable to rid myself of these unearned privileges.  But, in light of the many ways in which other individuals, as well as various social institutions, value my existence, perspective, and contributions over those of poor and working-class people, I will never be able to completely eliminate such privilege from my life.  Rather, a better strategy, beyond eliminating those privileges that I can relinquish, is to use my middle-class privilege to fight economic injustice.

While giving money is one option, I can also use my access to predominantly-middle-class spaces to call attention to poverty and homelessness.  From my focus on prejudice and discrimination, I can also push more attention to classist discrimination, like that of the police harassment in Bloomington, Indiana.

For example, during a teaching demonstration on poverty during my job interview at University of Richmond, I added to victim-blaming and structural perspectives on the persistence of poverty attention to classism as a system of oppression.  That is, in addition to moving beyond attention to individuals’ actions that keep them in poverty (i.e., victim-blaming), and even beyond structural factors (e.g., limited minimum wage, racism and sexism, incarceration), I stressed the need to consider the discrimination targeted against poor and working-class people.  Similar to racism and sexism, classism entails structural constraints and interpersonal barriers that promote class inequality.

Another strategy is to advance a more complex definition of social class.  Indeed, while how much money one makes is an important factor, attending to income alone misses wealth, and the non-monetary forms of capital (e.g., social and cultural capital).  By some accounts, I would be classified as working-class (by income, working-class/poor upbringing of my parents), but my high level of education (PhD by this May) and privileged socio-cultural status certainly mark me as middle-class.

Indeed, certain aspects of class are typically unmarked or invisible.  Short of appearing to be economically disadvantaged in clothing, accessories, and even hygiene, there is a tendency to assume that everyone is middle-class.  Worse, we have a tendency to make obvious markers of poverty invisible.  When ignoring the physical presence of people experiencing poverty and homelessness on the street is not enough, we actively push them out of sight.  We are either repulsed by their presence (classist prejudice) or are made uncomfortable when their presence reminds us that pervasive poverty exists (middle-class guilt).

Moving Forward

This is all complex and difficult to address.  But, it is necessary.  So, this begins the lifelong process of attempting to be aware of my and others’ middle-class privilege and, when possible, using that privilege to challenge economic injustice.  As a privileged ally to poor and working-class people, I will always be blind to certain aspects of their experiences, as well as of my own privileged experiences; and, I will probably get some things wrong along the way.  But, inaction, whether due to lack of care or the paralysis of middle-class guilt, is a horrible alternative.





More On Racism: Black Anger And White Guilt

19 02 2013

There have been varying responses to the recent blog dialogue between Fabio Rojas, Tressie McMillan Cottom, and me over the existence and persistence of racism in the US — what one colleague aptly called a “blogstorm.”  (Just in case you are just tuning in, see Fabio’s original “post-racism” thesis, Tressie’s first response, my first response, Fabio’s response to me, Tressie’s second response, and my second response.)

Racism And Rage

Some friends and colleagues have cautioned me against participating in such public dialogue, fearing that I may face professional consequences.  Others have offered their sympathy, I suppose out of concern that I feel attacked or at least stressed by these conversations.  Friends, colleagues, and even relatives — mostly people of color — have cheered me on, knowing that this is a tough, yet important dialogue.  I have also heard that various anonymous commentators have criticized me for so publicly demonstrating my emotions related to the topic of racism.

Fabio also pointed out that, in my original post, I noted my outrage regarding his suggestion that America is now post-racist.  I have yet to address this aspect of his response, though Tressie hinted that there is something problematic about this:

Here, I will try to avoid being labeled as an “outraged” black woman by sticking as closely as possible to the logical argument Fabio as put forth.

And, concludes her post with:

Was that rational enough for me to not be the angry black woman today? Eh.

A relative with whom I shared my participation in Blogstorm 2013 also took issue with Fabio’s acknowledgement of my outrage.  I did cringe upon my first read of Fabio’s response to me: “A few days ago, Eric Grollman was outraged by my post on “post-racist” society.”  I felt that my rage had been spotlighted in a way that undermined my point and my entire participation in the conversation.

What’s Wrong With Rage?

Of course, I do not think that Fabio meant any harm by directly citing my own words.  But, the murmurs about rage and racism are worth further examination.  Regardless of Fabio’s intentions, why would I fear public acknowledgement of the emotions I experienced in the midst of this dialogue about racism?

Reading Audre Lorde‘s “The Uses of Anger: Women Responding to Anger” in Sister Outsider this morning provided some insight.  At a speech she delivered in 1981 at the National Women’s Studies Association conference, she noted that many white feminists offered rare, obligatory attention to racism in their fight against patriarchy.  And, when the few feminist of color participated, their displays of anger and rage made their white counterparts uncomfortable.

Considering the structural and everyday realities of racism, anger is an appropriate, even expected, reaction.  But, it appears that these emotions scare white people at all points on the political spectrum.  Why?  As Lorde suggests, that anger evokes guilt, particularly in white liberals.  To demonstrate one’s raw emotions regarding the oppressive reality of racism is to convey just how real, just how ugly, and just how damaging and constraining it is.

But white guilt “is not a response to anger; it is a response to one’s own actions or lack of actions…it is a just another name for impotence, for defensiveness destructive of communication; it becomes a device to protect ignorance and the continuation of things the way they are, and the ultimate protection for changelessness (p. 130).”  Many liberal white people are uncomfortable seeing or hearing racism and the consequences it poses for people of color — hence, the anxious desire to declare America “post-racial.

A Personal Anecdote

On a number of occasions, (well-intentioned) white friends and relatives have asked me to lower my voice when speaking openly about racism in public spaces.  However, I am not silenced when I am laughing loudly and enjoying lighter topics of conversation.  Embedded in these requests is “please stop talking about racism, you’re making other [white] people [and me] uncomfortable.”   By openly discussing racist oppression, I am forcing those who benefit from it to stop pretending that racism and their white privilege do not exist.  And, good-hearted, liberal white people, in their disdain for racism, do not want to acknowledge their role in its continuance.

I have also, on a number of occasions, been criticized for being “militant.”  Again, these comments have often come from liberal-minded white people.  Their criticism is not that I take issue with racism, but rather that I do so without suppressing my anger.  What they want of me is to address racism on their terms: through mainstream social science; using “professional” language and demeanor; embracing all people, no matter how racist.  The irony!

For example, I was asked, by a white colleague during a panel on diversity in graduate school, whether I try to peacefully work things out with whites who offend or exclude me, or simply dismiss them as “racist.”  I responded by trying to push a conceptualization of racism as a system of oppression, as a system that structures every aspect and every level of society.  I noted that I assume all whites (who do not actively challenge racism) are racists, so, rather than getting hung on up playing the “who’s a racist?” game (which derails meaningful conversations), I can focus on the larger reality of racism.  Most of the white faces in the room contorted, likely just as they dismissed any and everything I had to say that day.

Another Manifestation Of Racism: Emotional Control

Thus, another manifestation of racism is how people of color respond and react to their oppression.  We are asked to speak in ways and on subjects that do not alienate whites.  When we threaten to directly name the persistence of racism, we are silenced.  Or, alternatively, our emotional displays are highlighted to undermine our perspective.  We are dismissed as “uppity,” “hostile,” “militant,” “angry,” or even violent.

That we are not free in how we feel about racism reflects yet another aspect of racist control over our minds, bodies, and souls.  (White) America listens when safe, non-threatening white men slip in discussions of racism into otherwise lighthearted conversations.

Embracing Anger

In order to fully understand racism, how it affects the lives of people of color, we must listen to and embrace how people of color respond – how they feel.  For, as Lorde notes, “[a]nger is loaded with information and energy” (p. 127).  To silence the anger that people of color feel, or to force them to speak in ways foreign to their own experience and emotions is to pervert the true reality of racist oppression.  This is a form of “selective hearing” at a minimum, pushing the message that racism is gone while ignoring the voices of people of color that say otherwise.  Yet, I would argue that this sort of control over how people of color feel and how they display those feelings is another prison bar in the jail of racism.

We are overdue for honing the creative potential of the rage that people of color suppress day after day.  For, the suppression of these emotions hinders our ability to move forward in eliminating racism:

Any discussion among women about racism must include the recognition and use of anger.  This discussion must be direct and creative because it is crucial.  We cannot allow our fear of anger to deflect us nor seduce us into settling for anything less than the hard work of excavating honesty (p. 128-9).

In response to persistence of racism even in 2013: yes, I am angry.  My anger is a reasonable and expected reaction.  And, I stress that rage is not violent in its own right.  While it has motivated some toward violent retaliation, it also drives non-violent efforts to create change.

What else besides anger over the existence of inequality would motivate any action to challenge it?  Clearly, white guilt immobilizes.  So, maybe it’s time for more anti-racist whites to get angry, too!





Drive-By Bigotry

27 01 2013

On at least four occasions in my life, I have been the victim of what I will call “drive-by bigotry.”  Either because of my race, sexual identity, or weight, an anonymous person has shouted an insult or pejorative term from a moving car.  Beyond the cowardice underlying these acts of bigotry, other aspects of these events leave me somewhat puzzled.

Drive-By Fatphobia: “Run Fat Boy!”

Grollman - JROTC CampI spent the summer of 2002 training for the Cadet Officer Leadership Program to become an officer in the Junior ROTC at my high school.  I knew that I would have no trouble with the tasks that called for discipline, teamwork, and problem-solving.  But, I knew there would be no way I could run the 1.5 miles required for the physical portion of the camp.  So, I began running daily.  The distance from one end of the neighborhood to the other was just over 1.5 miles, which made it easier for me to gauge how far to run.  I also devoted energy to dieting and toning muscle.  Going from sedentary to daily runner, of course I lost quite a bit of weight.

But, despite the weight loss, I was once told, “run fat boy!” from a teenager in a car that passed me as I ran.  I shrugged the event off, but I could not understand why I was “fat boy” having reached what I would consider a medium size.  It also struck me as somewhat funny that, despite the stereotypes of plus-sized people, I was running up a steep hill, while the person who insulted me sat in a car.

Drive-By Homophobia: “Go Back to Massachusetts!”

Sometime in July 2005, I visited my sister in Northern Virginia.  It was an exciting time, for my sister — the first relative to whom I came out — was meeting my then-boyfriend.  We walked to a nearby store to purchase drinks for the night, interrupted momentarily to wait until it was safe to cross a busy intersection.  A turning car drove by us.  Inside: a man, woman, and two children in the back.  In unison, and almost in a gleeful, sing-song style, they all shouted, “go back to Massachusetts!”  All of us are from Maryland, and had never lived any further north of the Mason-Dixon line.  “Huh?”, we thought.

I surmised that their instruction was to return to Massachusetts, where same-gender marriage had been legalized just 2 years before.  But, how strange it seemed to assume that all lesbian, gay, and bisexual (LGB) people lived in or were originally from Massachusetts.  And, nothing of our behavior or appearance led me to believe we should be assumed to be LGB, at least on a quick, passing inspection.  Further, I found it somewhat repulsive that these parents were not only demonstrating intolerance, but also encouraging their children to participate.

Drive-By Racism: “Nigger!” (2x)

Yes, at two times in my life, the passenger of a fast-moving car has shouted “nigger!” at me.

1) In 2008, toward the end of my first year of graduate school at Indiana University, I headed toward my car after hanging with a few friends.  The road was dark, but just a few feet from one of the city’s busy major roads.  (Since then, I have increasingly noticed how many streets are poorly lit in this town!)  A car sped by from behind, but going just slow enough for me to hear the racist pejorative shouted from a passenger in the backseat.  The old car, filled probably with four undergraduate students, stopped just feet away at a stop sign.  I froze momentarily, wondering whether to respond, attempt to memorize their license plate number, or go on letting the event roll off of my back.  I turned to look back at my friends to confirm that they heard it to, which they did.  I gave a look that conveyed, “yep, this is why I hate this town,” and got in my car to drive home.

2) One night during a one-month stay in Boston, MA in summer 2011, I walked with a friend toward his car.  We heard a car approaching with a rap song blaring out of the windows, the bass rattling everything nearby creating a mini earthquake.  “Niggers!”, the front-seat passenger shouted from his open window.  I caught a glimpse just of his arm dangling from the window — a young white man.

The combination of a white male listening to rap shouting a racist pejorative at us confused me.  Were they so caught up in “feeling” the music and the tough, violent lifestyle associated with rap that they “went too far” in appropriating Blackness?  For a moment, did they feel it was appropriate to use a term they saw as an endearing expression among Black people?  Or, do they hate Black people but love rap music?  I was further perplexed because my friend is white, though maybe tan enough to be mistaken as Black at 60mph at night.  Once we got in his car and had successfully changed the subject of conversation, another car approached slowly.  The passenger threw an egg, and the car sped off.  I am in no rush to visit Boston again.

Confuse Them To Death!

Is there some collective effort to confuse members of marginalized groups with these strange acts?  I know to, and constantly, prepare for acts of intolerance.  But, these occurrences leave me feeling more confused than insulted, attacked, or belittled.  Upon losing a significant amount of weight, I was told, “run fat boy!”  Despite the universal assumption that everyone is heterosexual (until proven otherwise), I was told to return to my home planet, Queertopia (Massachusetts).  Though I am ambiguously brown, and often assumed to be white, and in the darkness of night, at a high speed, I (while with 1-2 white people) was twice called, “nigger!” from a moving vehicle.  How could these people even tell I am a fat brown queer?  I have had people studying my face and behavior, while standing still, who had trouble discerning my racial and sexual identities.

Or, are people indiscriminately  hurling pejoratives out of their car windows, no matter the identities and statuses of their targets?  That would be even more perplexing to me!





What Kind Of Nation Are We? This Year’s Walmart Black Friday Riot Says It All…

23 11 2012

Seriously?  Twenty-four hours ago, I wrote to call into question what has become of Thanksgiving, Christmas, and the quickly-expanding holiday “season.”  In 2008, a Walmart employee was trampled to death as a stamped of Black Friday shoppers burst through the store’s doors.  Now, four years later, the store is paying millions to fight a $7,000 fine for their responsibility in his death.  Despite strikes and walkouts by several of its employees across the country, Walmart pushed forward with its Black Friday – and now Thanksgiving day! – sales.  So, what happens when a store creates end-of-the-world-like conditions (buy this for this one hour only or be forced to pay $20 more!) through its sales?

You get this

There were more people present to buy cheap cellphones than to those protesting the poor working conditions and low wages.  That’s the kind of nation we are.