A Recent Test Of My Bystander Intervention

2 06 2013

I have done some work in the past to advance bystander intervention approaches to sexual assault prevention.  In the days that I volunteered at Middle Way House, a local intimate partner violence and rape crisis shelter, I compiled a review of bystander intervention curricula, hopefully to extend MWH’s own anti-sexual violence curriculumHere, and at Kinsey Confidential, I have written about bystander intervention, as well — including using the approach to eliminate racism and its consequences.

I really like the notion of bystander intervention because it moves beyond victim-blaming, to place both the problem and the solution on society.  For sexual violence, this means recognizing the way that sexism purports an ideology that characterizes women as sex objects, and is manifest in organizations that promote or facilitate sexual violence.  It is much harder to focus exclusively on the perpetrator’s intentions (“maybe he got carried away”) or even the victim’s “guilt” when these incidents occur within a rape culture.  I see it as the missing complement to understanding social problems sociologically — that we must see the solutions as society’s responsibility, as well.

A Recent Test

A few days ago, I heard screaming from a nearby apartment.  Being nosy, I peeped out of my window to see what all of the commotion was.  I could locate the screaming to an apartment where a couple (I presume) argued.  I could make out some of what they said — something about a misplaced cellphone and, apparently, misplaced blame for its disappearance.  I watched as long as my fleeting interest held.

But, I felt that the arguing was quite heated.  I began to worry that it might develop into something worse.  It did.  “What did you say to me?  WHAT DID YOU SAY?” the man demanded.  Short of anything physical, this kind of verbal threat concerns me; it’s tone is hostile and intent is likely meant to scare the recipient.  And, through the small gap in their blinds, I could she him shake the woman and then push her against the wall.  Panic set in.  “I have got to do something,” I thought to myself.

First, I called 911.  The dispatcher calmly asked, “is it still just verbal at this point?”  Good – another concerned neighbor beat me to calling.  “No, he just pushed her against the wall.”  The police were sent to respond.  I felt my bystander intervention advocacy tested.  Do I run over, especially if it becomes more violent?  (How could I live with knowing something worse happened if I didn’t act?)  No, I have to live here for a while longer; my partner’s and my own safety cannot be overlooked.  I decided to call and text friends and family who either work in violence prevention or law enforcement — “what else can I do?”  That was it.  They all assured me that it was in the police department’s hands now.

The police did arrive soon after.  I could hear their knock at the front door; a dog began barking.  Fortunately, their arguing had settled slightly after I called 911, though the times of silence were no more settling for fear he had further hurt her.  I could not see or hear anything for a few minutes after the police arrived.

Then, the man, shirtless, darted behind the building.  I do not know whether he dashed passed the police, or even jumped from the second-floor apartment patio.  One police officer walked slowly behind him.  Then, I could hear police interviewing the woman, though it sounded as though they were badgering her.  She left with them to her own apartment.  After a while, the three police cars parked at the edge of the woods, which he ran into, left.  I was a little unsettled by a perpetrator being on the loose, so I peeked out every once in a while.  I noticed a police officer remained behind, probably to apprehend him if he returned.

The Aftermath

I had considered notifying my apartment complex about the incident.  But, I was not sure what would come of it.  Coincidentally, they emailed me the next day about a maintenance request I had not put in.  So, I let them know then.  With an apology for the disturbance, they let me know was evicted; he had that day to leave or be forced out by a Sheriff the next week.  I heard a commotion early the next week.  I presume he did not go willingly. But, he is gone for good.  But, the arguing suggests he was probably with his girlfriend/wife as he moved out.  This is what worried me.

Yes, I am relieved he was evicted.  It turns out this was the third time police have come for him.  And, I realized it was the second intimate partner violence incident within a week.  The previous weekend, I heard a woman’s frantic screams, but police were already involved so I did not investigate further.  Another nosy neighbor said to her boyfriend as they passed me, “I don’t know why she would scream that much about a broken window.”  She was probably screaming in sheer terror because this man, her boyfriend/husband who has a history of attacking and terrorizing her, was coming after her (again).  (This is my point about the problem of culture.  These people dismissed her as overreacting and never thought about her or him again.)

He is gone from this neighborhood, but who knows whether he moved in with her.  She is not out of harms way.  If their relationship ends, he may continue to perpetrate violence against others (and may already be doing so).

Bystander InterventionS

This, of course, was not the first time I have been tested.  There are many ways in which I have had, and sometimes taken, the opportunity to intervene in preventing violence and its consequences.  For, intervening is not merely about the immediate violent situation.  I can intervene by challenging comments and jokes that justify, glorify, or ignore violence.  I can support victims of violence, even as simply as offering emotional support, saying “I believe you” and “this is not your fault”; if they allow, and I am equipped to do so, I can offer resources to leave on-going violent situations or rebuild their lives.  I can work to educate others, especially to see violence as a social problem and prevention as a community responsibility.

I still do not feel that I did enough.  But, in the grand scheme, I did as much as I could safely do, and I continue to work on violence prevention at broad level.  The situation forced the reminder that my gift is in education, in research, in disseminating knowledge, and speaking out in general.  It is important that I do my part from these strengths and my own perspective, rather than trying to be superman.  And, I hope others will (continue to) do their part, as well.





Oppression As Terrorism

7 03 2013

What image comes to mind when you hear the term “terrorist“?  I can imagine most Americans think of something like the images that a quick Google search yields:Screen Shot 2013-03-07 at 7.14.25 AM

Right now, these are the kinds of images that predominate US discourse on terrorism, particularly after the terrorists attacks in NYC, DC, and PA on September 11, 2001.  Before that, this was the image of terrorism, at least in my mind:

That of domestic terrorist, Timothy McVeigha white supremacists.  As a nation, we are more fixated on the threat posed by those pictured in the first image — those people in that country.  Our fear of terrorism is used as justification for our xenophobic prejudice toward nations outside of the West.  Arguably, it also undergirds the vehement anti-immigration sentiment, now that “immigrant” has become synonymous with “Hispanic,” “Latino,” “Mexican,” and “illegal.”

For the oppressed members of the US — people of color, women, lesbian, gay, bisexual, and trans* (LGBT) people, religious minorities, and immigrants in particular — terrorism exists daily within our borders.  Defining terrorism simply as a systematic effort to evoke fear and terror in another group, oppressed groups experience both violence and the threat of violence (i.e., terrorism).  In addition to the daily microaggressions and discrimination, these marginalized groups are kept in “their place” through violence and terrorism.

Power And Defining Violence

Continuing to gobble up every idea in sociologist Patricia Hill Collins‘s book, On Intellectual Activism, I got the encouragement I needed to write this post, which I have been contemplating for some time.  She has a chapter, “The Ethos of Violence,” in which she argues that violence is not a given phenomenon.  Rather, it is socially constructed, wherein its meaning is taken from its historical and social context.  But, as I usually do when drawing upon a social constructionist perspective, I echo her argument that the power to define socially is not shared equally.  Rather, dominant social groups hold the power to define violence.  Whites, the middle- and upper-classes, men, heterosexuals, US-born citizens, and so on define violence.

Take the unfortunate example of the shooting in an elementary school in Connecticut.  It would be unimaginable to think anyone would dispute that this was a tragedy — yes, even one that warrants the overdue changes to gun control laws in the US.  But, as some pointed out, that kind of rare tragedy in middle-class white America garners great national attention, while everyday violence in urban, poor, and Black and Latin/o neighborhoods rarely get attention.  As Collins’s points out, these events, though more common, are not treated as noteworthy violence because they do not directly affect the privileged members of America.  In fact, such violence is treated as something to be routinely expected of the inferior classes of people who are stereotyped as natural savages.

Look at the intense political battles against protections from discrimination and violence for women, trans* people, people of color, and lesbian, gay, and bisexual people.  It is difficult to fathom how one could oppose protection from violence.  But, men, cisgender people, heterosexuals, the wealthy, and whites are shielded from violence.  As a part of their privilege, they neither witness nor experience violence enacted toward them because of their status.

Oppression As Terrorism

Collins also notes that, in addition to the violence enacted against oppressed people, they are also terrorized by the threat of such violence.

The routine nature of violence is highly significant in maintaining the social control needed for social inequalities to be seen as natural, normal, and inevitable.  The significance of violence goes much deeper than the small number of visible violent acts that actually occur in relation to the size of the American population as well as the interpretive climate needed to define it.   Rather, the threat of violence constitutes a powerful tool of social control.  For example, women who monitor what they wear, where they walk and with whom, and the time of day they appear in public places adjust their behavior in response to the fear of violence against them.  Women do not have total access to the streets because these spaces remain coded as male spaces, at least most of the time.  A particular woman need not be raped to know that some streets are always dangerous or that all streets are sometimes dangerous.  The fear of physical and sexual assault is sufficient to keep her in her place.

In the above quote, Collins points out that, while at least one-quarter of women experience actual sexual violence, they and the remaining 75 percent of women are plagued by the threat of sexual (and other forms of) violence.  That sexual violence affects women such that they live in fear and adjust their behaviors to minimize their vulnerability and this fear constitutes a form of terrorism.  And, that seemingly isolated acts serve to threaten and disempower an entire marginalized group (women), rape and sexual assault constitutes a type of hate crime.

In a forthcoming article in Journal of Homosexuality, considering the intersections among race and ethnicity, gender, and sexual orientation, Doug Meyer and I found that white men and heterosexual men (the sample was too small to consider all three identities simultaneously) were the only groups wherein fewer than half (~30 percent) reported being afraid to walk alone at night within 1 mile of their own homes.  All women, regardless of race, ethnicity, and sexual orientation, Black and Latino men, and sexual minority men had comparable percentages of those who said they felt such fear (between 70-80 percent).  These patterns held even as we accounted for their prior experiences of robbery or other crimes.

Marginalized groups have real reason to live in fear.  The rates of documented acts of violence are high — just imagine what the rates would look like if most acts of violence were actually reported.  And, think about the costs of the fear that most members of marginalized groups experience.  This fear and the efforts one may take to protect oneself from violence can mean watching every aspect of your behavior, remaining vigilant and in a heightened state of arousal when walking alone, being wary of strangers of privileged groups, staying away from certain parts of town, or forgoing certain activities all together.  For myself, as my partner and I visit Richmond next week to search for a place to live, I have such concerns weighing on my mind; where will we feel safe as an interracial queer couple?

Given their privilege, whites, men, cisgender people, heterosexuals, those born in the US, and the wealthy do not have to experience nor think about violence and the fear of violence.  Beyond that, they do not have to acknowledge or validate the fear experienced by members of oppressed groups.  Further, they have the power to subvert our claims of violence, either as isolated acts that are not motivated by hate (rather than systemic violence and terrorism) or even as something victims brought on themselvesMaybe it was the short skirt she was wearing.  Maybe it was the hoodie he was wearing.  Maybe he flirted with the guy.  Maybe she “lied” about her sex-assigned-at-birth.

Terrorism And The State

What complicates this further is that the state, which proclaims to protect all Americans, is implicated in violence against the oppressed.  Laws on the books are either selectively or weakly enforced.  Proposed laws to protect marginalized groups from violence are somehow characterized as a threat to privileged groups.  And, too often, the state itself enacts violence (e.g., police brutality, injustice in the criminal justice system, forced sterilization, interment, enslavement, raids).  Who protects us when even our protectors enact violence against us or fails to intervene when others attack us?

How quickly we developed national efforts to guard against terrorism (and protect our national borders from “illegals“) — of course, that is when dominant groups come under threat.  There has never been a Homeland Security to protect against racism, sexism, heterosexism, cissexism.  The oppressed are on their own for that.  Ironically, it seems that when the state moves to protect all Americans, the oppressed become suspects.  Anyone with brown skin can be searched and demanded for their “papers.”  Transgender and gender non-conforming people are subjected to additional screening through TSA security checks at airports.  But, c’mon — this is in the name of security for all!

Another Irony Of Oppression

Something akin to the “double bind” or “dual-edged sword” that oppressed people face — the sense that you are “damned if you do and damned if you don’t” — is a sense of irony about systems of oppression.  A good example of the “double bind” for women is the reality that they are penalized for being feminine in a masculinist society, but then punished if they are “too masculine” — something that, in overly simplistic pragmatic terms — would make sense to get ahead in life.  But, what I find more ironic is a twist on certain aspects of oppression.

In particular, I find it ironic that members of oppressed groups face everyday threats of violence, discrimination, and subtler expressions of hatred, yet are characterized as a threat to dominant society.  People of color are subject to violence by, yet are portrayed as violent to, white America.  Gay men, in particular, are frequent targets of homophobic violence and discrimination by, yet are characterized as threatening to, heterosexual men.  Women, if given the power to control anything (even their own bodies!), are seen as a threat to the livelihood of the nation.

There is an exchange in the 2007 movie version of the play, Hairspray, that sticks out in my memory:

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Seaweed: “And this young lady right here is Penny Pingleton.”
Penny: “I’m very pleased and scared to be here.”
Motormouth Maybelle: “Now, honey, we got more reason to be scared on your street.”

Concluding Thoughts

I suppose the take-away points of this post could be: 1) calling for better attention to collective understandings of violence and terrorism, which erase the ways in which oppressed people are attacked and terrorized daily; and 2) calling for real, sustained efforts to account for, outlaw, and remedy the vast amount of violence that routinely occurs against marginalized groups.

This should entail, as Collins points out, better understanding violence at the intersection of systems of oppression, including the heightened risk of violence among those who belong to multiple oppressed groups (especially women and LGBT people of color and poor LGBT people and women).  For, even within our own communities, we face violence.  Yet, for some reason, many members of privileged groups continue to dismiss our efforts protect ourselves from discrimination and violence — basic, fundamental rights — as “special rights.”





Are We Failing Victims Of Intimate Partner Violence?

16 03 2012
Heather Lynn McGuire

McGuire. Source: WJLA

If a woman who has successfully filed a protective order against her abusive estranged husband, and then he abducts and murders her, have we failed yet another victim of intimate partner violence?

Separated from her husband, Philip Gilberti, who had a history of abusing her, Heather Lynn McGuire has filed a series of protective orders against her husband, fearing for her safety.  He harassed her twice this passed weekend, prompting her to call police who arrested him both times.  Both times he was released on bail, free to harass her again.  On Tuesday morning, he abducted her in his minivan, shot her in the head, and pushed her body out of the car into the intersection of Connecticut and Knowles Avenues in Kensington, Maryland.

Despite Gilberti’s record of abusing and harassing McGuire, and his long criminal record (including battery, attempted murder, stalking, etc.), he was set free on bail twice this passed weekend.  Preliminary investigation of the investigation yielded that the second judge, Hon. Barry Hamilton, released him on bond (which he did not have to pay right away), because the court computers were down, disallowing the judge to see his extensive record.  Later on Tuesday, after Gilberti murdered McGuire, police found him dead — he committed suicide.

Do Protective Orders Really Protect?

Simply defined, protective orders, also known as restraining orders, are legal injunctions designed to prevent a particular behavior, namely contact between a person who is likely harassing someone else and the person being harassed.  An important note about these orders is that they are reactive, rather than preventative; that is, a person is punished upon violating the protective order, but little is done to prevent the violation in the first place.  For Gilberti, his punishment was being released on bond, thus he was set to pay a fine.  Somehow stalking, harassing, and threatening McGuire even after being arrested once this weekend was seen as appropriately punished with another verdict of release on bond.  Sadly, this free pass left open the door for Gilberti to murder McGuire.

There are too many sad stories that leave many advocates to wonder whether protective orders are enough.  The Wikipedia entry about restraining orders suggests the following about the effectiveness of these legal strategies to protect oneself from further harassment:

Experts disagree on whether restraining orders are effective in preventing further harassment. A 2010 analysis published in the Journal of the American Academy of Psychiatry and the Law reviewed 15 U.S. studies of restraining order effectiveness, and concluded that restraining orders “can serve a useful role in threat management.” However, a 2002 analysis of 32 U.S. studies found that restraining orders are violated an average of 40 percent of the time and are perceived as being “followed by worse events” almost 21 per cent of the time, and concluded that “evidence of [restraining orders'] relative efficacy is lacking,” and that they may pose some degree of risk. A large America-wide telephone survey conducted in 1998 found that, of stalking victims who obtained a restraining order, more than 68 per cent reported it being violated by their stalker. Samuel Goldberg, a Boston attorney specializing in partner abuse cases, remarks that restraining orders are awarded so casually that “they are not taken as seriously as they should be.”

A Good Victim

Law enforcement, concerned that this tragic incident sends the message that protective orders are meaningless and, as a result, victims of continued intimate partner violence are own their own to protect themselves, has implied the following:

Authorities say the last message they want battered women to take from this is that they cannot protect them. The sheriff says the data very clearly show that women who go for help are far safer that those who try to tough it out alone.

Women who seek help are likely safer than those who don’t on average.  That means that there is probably a greater percentage of women who have sought legal and advocacy assistance who remain safe when fleeing violence than those who don’t seek such help.  But, those numbers did not translate into safety for McGuire:

McGuire and her children came to the Family Justice Center several times for help. She’d taken out numerous protective orders and used the social services and counseling available. She was in shelters several times because the situation got very violent.

Some local television news coverage of the murder seemed to paint McGuire as a good victim.  That is, she did all that she should have as a victim of intimate partner violence.  She did everything right — but, why is she dead today?  Besides sending the scary message that there is little to offer to individuals who are fleeing violence, there also seems to be the unspoken criticism that victims who never report the victimization they face and seek assistance are somehow bad victims.  Such a criticism misses the many barriers that victims face in reporting and seeking help: fear of violence; fear of being cut off financially; fear of violence against one’s children or other relatives; worry that one’s story will not be believed by police, friends, and family; being forced to out oneself in the case of same-sex relationships; among other barriers.

Where Do We Go From Here?





[kinsey] Men Who Engage In Domestic Violence Overestimate How Common It Is

15 06 2010

This was originally posted at Kinsey Confidential.

The tragic murder of UVA student Yeardley Love by her boyfriend brought domestic violence back into media spotlight last month.  And, a new media experiment on ABC by What Would You Do? asked whether and when people intervened when they witnessed domestic violence in public.  A new University of Washington-University of Houston joint study of men who engage in domestic violence, emotionally and physically harming their romantic partners, finds that they overestimate how common domestic violence is.  They conclude that these findings indicate the power of social norms in encouraging violent behavior.

The Study

A pair of psychology/psychiatry researchers, one from each of the universities, looked at 124 men who were enrolled in a treatment intervention study for domestic violence.  The men in their study, who had engaged in domestic violence against a partner in the last 3 months, were asked to estimate the percentage of men who had ever engaged in seven different forms of abuse:

  1. throwing something at a partner that could hurt
  2. pushing, grabbing, or shoving a partner
  3. slapping or hitting
  4. choking
  5. beating up a partner
  6. threatening a partner with a gun
  7. forcing a partner have sex when they did not want to.

The researchers compared their estimates to the number of men who actually engaged in such abusive behaviors.  For all seven of the abusive behaviors, the 124 men overestimated how much domestic violence actually occurs – sometimes twice or three times the actual rates.

But What Came First, Beliefs Or Behaviors?

One limitation of the study is its focus on men who already have a history of domestic violence.  Future research could explore the link between these beliefs about the prevalence of domestic violence and actually engaging in domestic violence, possibly through a long-term study on beliefs and behaviors of a sample of boys through adulthood.  One possibility is that men who engage in these violent behaviors attempt to justify their behavior  by attempting to encourage others (and, possibly themselves) to believe that domestic violence is common – “every man does it.”  These findings are important nonetheless, as they help us to better understand who engages in domestic violence and, to some extent, why.





Who Cares About Whores? Apparently, No One.

24 05 2010

As a social scientist, I like my research findings to be reliable and valid – the two, sometimes competing goals of most researchers.  That is, we want to ensure that we are actually measuring what we set out to measure, and that our findings are accurate.  ABC’s What Would You Do series, a set of hidden-camera experiments that investigate average people’s willingness to behave in certain ways (e.g., intervene in sexual harassment), is not the most scientific endeavor.  But, its work is an important contribution to understanding the reality of many social problems.

Hooray! Some People Intervene In (Public) Domestic Violence

One of WWYD‘s latest experiments was to investigate people’s willingness to intervene in a public domestic violence incident in a restaurant.  A intraracial (same-race) heterosexual couple sat in a restaurant – the man who yelled and physically assaulted a woman, who had obvious bruises on her face and limbs (to indicate prior abuse).  In the first of two experiments, the woman was dressed “conservatively.”  For both a white and Black couple, some individuals hesitated only minutes before intervening.  I am relieved to see that the Black woman was not left to fend for herself relative to the white woman, but I am curious about the subtle racial dynamics: a white heterosexual couple, especially the male partner, intervened when the white actors played out the domestic violence scene; two Latina cousins intervened when it was the Black couple.

Who Cares? She’s A Whore.

WWYD clearly some homework in advance.  With a sociologist who studies domestic violence on hand, they knew to predict that, if dressed “provocatively,” the actor playing a victim of domestic violence would be left to fend for herself.  As predicted, the intervention was substantially lessened compared to the intervention in the first experiment.  While many seated near them noticed, some called 911 and/or notified staff at the restaurant, no one actually interacted with the couple.  Two disgusting rationales were provided for bystanders’ unwillingness to get involved: 1) I assumed she was a hooker, 2) domestic violence has a time and a place – in private.  Sadly, what is clear is that we, as a society, have deemed certain women as deserving of domestic violence and all women, if dressed like “whores,” are acceptable targets of such abuse.

Sexism’s Dual Edge Sword

This frightening double standard for ignoring/condoning domestic violence, one standard for “reputable” and deserving women, another for “whores,” highlights a dual edge sword for women.  You can dress “conservatively” and be dismissed as undateable, even a lesbian (e.g., Elana Kagan).  Or, you can dress to the standard society demands of women, nearly naked, and be dismissed as a whore who is deserving of whatever ill-treatment and abuse you receive.  But, before we jump to the conclusion that we must encourage women to show less leg than nuns, we have to realize that rapists and harassers do not discriminate on the basis of age, attractiveness, or style of dress: all women are potential targets of harassment, assault, and rape.  No matter which end of the dual edge sword you are willing to face, you can get stabbed in our sexist society.

Another Call For Bystander Intervention

From the first of these two experiments, it seemed easier for some people to intervene, in some way, once others had broken the ice.  And, the more others had intervened, the more it seemed others were willing to do more.  But, when people only looked, their inaction and even rationale for failing to intervene indicated that it was not their responsibility.  The comments that alluded to a “time and a place” when domestic violence is appropriate highlighted that we all have a responsibility: do it, but not in public.  But, others intense involvement contradicted those messages: we have to respond, we must respond.  I do not care to apologize for saying this: NO VICTIM IS DESERVING OF VICTIMIZATION.  NO VICTIM CAN BE BLAMED FOR THEIR VICTIMIZATION. As such, a victim of violence could be covered from head to toe, or wearing their birthday suit – it does not matter; but what matters is that we acknowledge that all forms of violence against women and men are social problems.  And, as such, we must, as a society, work together to prevent such violence.  Beyond intervening in the most intense level of violence, we must intervene at every stage: challenge rape jokes, speak up when you see sexual harassment, teach your children that harassment is not okay, practice open communication in your own relationships, call the police, take your friend home when he/she is passed out at a party, etc.  It is our responsibility.





Please Tell Me Restraining Orders Are More Than Pieces Of Paper

8 03 2010

Police, anti-domestic violence advocates and organizations, and our family and friends will likely tell us to obtain a protective order, a “restraining order”, when we fear potential violence or continued violence by someone in our lives – a partner or spouse, ex-partner or spouse, estranged friend, or a stranger that has begun stalking us.  This is a step I have also recommended once or twice when a friend has confided in me about violence or potential violence in their life.  But, are protective orders enough?  The short answer is no.

  • A few weeks ago, a special education teacher in Washington state was killed right outside of the school she works at by the man that had begun stalking her.  She was waiting to hear back about the status of the protective order that she had recently filed against him.
  • A woman was stabbed to death by her ex-boyfriend who had just been released on bail two days before the murder for – he had been arrested for violating the protective order she successfully filed against him after their 5-week-old baby died in his care.
  • Women have also been failed when protective orders are not issued.  In early February, a woman was denied a protective order against her ex-boyfriend who she feared could harm her and her 9-month-old her son.  One month after the judges denied her request for a protective order, her ex-boyfriend killed the 9-month-old and then committed suicide.
  • New York Governor David Paterson is catching heat for intervening in a domestic violence charge against one of his aides, David W. Johnson.  Apparently, he attempted to reconcile the two the night before Johnson’s ex-girlfriend, who he has been charged for “choking her, smashing her into a mirrored dresser and preventing her from calling for help”, was to appear in court to file for a protective order against Johnson.

When issued or denied, protective orders may not be serving the purpose for which they are designed.  So, what other solutions exist, besides the obvious restructuring of social norms regarding masculinity, femininity, gender, violence, and intimate relationships?  France is moving in the direction of tagging violent men who have a history of abusing and assaulting their wives and girlfriends.  This tag, like a house-arrest bracelet, would alert the police when a man has violated the protective order filed against him.  This is at least a step in the right direction, but we must acknowledge that protective orders are not always sought by victims of violence, nor are they always granted or upheld, and some victims of violence with these protective orders may live in places where police response is spotty and slow.  But, it is a step in the right direction nonetheless.